Beautiful is within yourself

This is my first post since my last time posting in this blog. It almost a year since my last visit and wrote something in my blog. I can used to write back in my blog when I thinks that I have something to share with my blog reader ( Even my blog follower can be counted by finger). The terms 'Beautiful' is a subjective terms. Why is that so? I guess many of the reader was wondering why I'm saying that beautiful is a subjective terms. Beautiful can't be described and that make this terms become subjective, thus mean the terms was not fixed and can be anything. The terms beautiful is also the matters of heart. It was based on the person's heart to evaluate whether itw as beautiful or not. However, compared with the eyes and the heart. Heart is the unbiased element in human being. We also have to remember, there are two types of heart in human being that is Smal heart and Big heart. Use your small heart in evaluating something and you would find most of the answer for the question that you asked was answer honestly by small heart rather that big heart. I got this information about Small Heart and Big Heart when I was reading a motivation book wrote by Dr. Tuah Iskandar al-Haj, one of the motivation figure in Malaysia. Now get back to the point, why I'm saying its better to use your heart rather than your eyes? Its is because our eyes only can see what was revealed only, it can't evaluate what is in the inner. For example, when you are diving what u see in the surface of the sea is not what is exactly you will faced. Sometimes, due to the eyes illusion, we might think that the water is not depth, but we will only know about the truth when we goes in to the surface. During that moment, we would know how deep is the water. This is the metaphor that I was used to explaining on the eyes illusion and explaining that what your eyes see not necessary to be true. Thats why i'm suggesting for you to use your heart along with your mind combination to thinks more deeper into something. Hence, it was not enough to use your eyes to determine whether something we see is beautiful or ugly.

Now come to the second reason, beauty can be based on people's perspective. Thus mean it was depends on how the people looks at the things. In history, during the Old days, women who is fat considered as beautiful compared with skinny women. Now, the terms implied was goes to the other side, the fat women considered as ugly. Now we can see that the term beautiful can be so subjective as it always change along with times and the people perception about it.

As I always mention in my previous post in my blog, it was crucial for a women to have inner beauty. Inner beauty is not the 'awet muda' but the beautiful of their soul. To see whether someone is beautiful in their soul, take a look on how she interact with other people, how she talks with other people, how she react when she saw something bad happen to other people. For me this is more important that the outer beauty. Outer beauty will fade along with time, does anyone who will not aging? Anybody? Off course not, but the inner beauty will not fade along with time, if the person keep with her oldself, then the beauty would get together with her. Not matter how how is she. So, I will leave you with this question as a conclusion: which type of beauty you consider? Inner that is temporary and would fade with time or the inner beauty that would be with you forever?

When World Seen in Black and White colour

phew... It seems it had been a long time since my last post here. Hurm.. too many things happen in my life lately. Now we have an issue that might make everyone who read this might feels quite excited about this. Colour. Everyone love colour right? We can see it because when we ask someone, " what is your favourite colour?" there must be an answer by the person we asked. I haven't found yet a person answering" oh, i don't have any." there must be an answer for every question we asked. but what i'm going to talk here, is not about colour that is a physical, a concrete mean of colour. but i'm going to talk about the colour of life. this colour is abstract colour, we can't see them, but we can feel them. lately, lots of teenager finished off their life because of simple matter such as love, study and so on. I think that this matter is quite serious because teenager is a future generation that will continue the current leadership.

The main question is Why does they think that way?

one of the reason why is because teenager is still in the process to develop their own identity, thus it is easy for their emotion to being broken down. Thus make teenager needs a lots of attention in order to handle their own emotion. Transformation from a child to a teenager is not easy this days. lots of challenge would coming. As they passing through many changes either biological or mentally, teenager this days have to adapt with the new surrounding which is extremely dangerous for them if they can't manage themselves. It was understandable that they faces changes either in their emotion. However, they would have to look for some reliable person which they can trust. Teen nowadays seem feel afraid to sharing their problem with their parents. Hence, parents also need to playing their own role in explaining or comforting their children. If possible, don't trying to watching over them too heavy or they might feel blocked or annoyed with care that had been given to them. I don't saying that the secure by the parents is unnecessary, i think parents should take moderate view in watching their child. Usually, when a teen was being secured too much. They might think that their parents don't trust them. However, when the parents was giving too much trust to their children would become a problem too as the teenager might goes out of control. Therefore, the best way is to take moderate consideration on the child action.

Other than that, I think that the teenager would need to learn on how to deal with their personal matter. But as I mention before, the interference from their parents is crucial as they have to know their children very well. Duty of the parents not only on giving appropriate things for their child, it also giving them guidance so they would growing up in a right manner.

For teenager, the world is full with colors, don't see the world only in black and white. Seek for something that would make you happy and cherish. It was wonderful to have a color of life. But, remember to control what you had feel!

Perfection is within us...

It seems its a long time since my last post here in my blog. Since that I don't have big follower for the blog then I thinks it doesn't matter whether I post something in my blog or not. Besides, I will facing my final examination soon. So I guess that its way more important than posting in my blog. This week I had been contacted by my friend from UAE, it seems that she facing with some trouble about the decision that she must made for her future. As i always mention in my previous post, our future is something that we can't confirm and deal with it. I mean, the future is something that we can't see through our own eyes and also can't be reach by our mind. So I says to her that she must construct a plan for her future very well in order to ensure that her future will become bright, or else it will become a disasterous thing that she will experienced. Not that thing or issue that I'm going to discuss in here, but before that let me continues with my friends story. Then she come with a story of the "perfect" girl in her school mocking her own teacher not behind of the teacher's back but she express it openly. Here we got some issue to discuss. Look, does it academic matter most in our life. I mean do the academic achievement allows us to looks down at others who was below us? Come on. Academic achievement doesn't make sense at all in this matter. If someone is highly academic achiever, and her attitude is good, then that is the true achievement. If only the academic is good, but the attitude is not good at all, then what does the academic make sense? She also got the "perfect" girl award in the school. Man, I think this school may make a big mistake by choosing this girl. I'm not insulting anyone. But technically, this is the fact. Furthermore, I thinks that no one in this world can being considered as Perfect. because the perfection only for Him. The one who create this wonderful world. So how come this girl with that kind of attitude got the award? I thinks the criteria for the award should be revised that it should include the aspect of personality of the candidate. I thinks that it should be balanced between academic and also personality. Because I strongly thinks that there is no use that we had achieve highly performance of academic but our attitude if far more than being considered as good. Then come to the issue of perfect. How can this can being considered as an issue? Perfect.. Is one of the most desirable word that every person want in this world. Ask anyone you meet and ask them question of whether they want to have perfection in their life? They will answer yes. However, we know that in our way to chase perfection, it become disaster. For example, we can see how many person in this world will to not eating just want to get the perfect curve for their body? How many women will to doing plastic surgery that comes with 1001 probability and effect? see?? this is cause by the ossesion to become perfect for human, but doesn't they realize that they had already perfect without they have to doing plastic surgery and so on? See the verse in Qoran of surah Al-Tin, verse 4: Verily, We created man of the best stature (mould).. ( Cited from http://www.noblequran.com/translation/surah95.html) So, why must we chase the perfection if the perfection already exist in ourself?

So I thinks that we should realize who we are and from what we had been created. Dun cahse too much perfection in our life. We have to look down at ourself. We are nothing compared with Him who knows every single things that will happen to us.

Opening of a new blog

It seems that my life become difficult than even this week as the burden loaded in my shoulder become heavier than ever. I thinks that I can't stand it anymore. with friends that seems don't want to understand me well. I think that it's time for me to shut my mouth off and silently listen to them. I don't want to disturb their life anymore, what happen to them is their business.. I got no right to disturb or interrupt their own life. They was grown up enough. However, being a grown up guy ain't always easy for us. There's a lot of things that we have to look out and evaluate it well. Hurm... This is difficult right? But, as I always say before, we need to consider that everything we do always come with dual effect that is good and bad.

Time to get off from the topic, forget the sadness and sorrow for a while. I want to leave a side my sorrow and sadness. Last saturday, I went to a motivation program that was organised by UiTM sabah counseling clun. Even that my name not listed as students that must be there, but my heart says that I must come to the workshop. Then, I come to the workshop. When I come in there, a sad view or I can say a disappointed view can be seen in the multipurpose hall, There's only a few students that come to the program! But, from what I know from the notice, the program is compulsory for the new student! Is the number of new student only hundreds? Its quite impossible as I know there's a lot of new student had been taken for this semester! If that is the only new students then the hostel would be enough to support the number of student. But what can I see is the number of student that come to the program not more than 300! where's the rest?? This program is beneficial for them as it will help them and also teach them how to study well. The right technique is important so that we can score well. In this program, I learned that there are 3 type of learning or studying skills that is affected by how we like to study that is auditory, visual and kinesthetic. All these 3 type of studying habit or skill if being applied well by the students will help them to get or know what is the right way for them to study. However, its quite disappointed that maybe the students don't interested to attend the program because there are no coupon provided for the student that come to the program. I'm not blame the people that didn't come to the program, but what I want to say is what we need most is the knowledge that we will get from the program, not the coupon.! The knowledge that we get from a program is so much more precious than the coupon that we get from the program. The coupon will last only for a semester then it will gone. Become rubbish that we will throw it out in the dustbin. But the knowledge that we got from a program if we know how to applied it, it will last forever in our mind. One more good things that we can get is, we can also teach other people on how to applying the method taht we had learn, as sharing is caring. However, as I awlays said, there's a limit for everything we done in this world. So, happy sharing everyone!!

Oh, I forgot to tell that I had open a new blog. I thinks that, its important for me to write in malays. So I open up a new blog that in Malays. If u want to invite it, the address is: teratakbiruitu.blogspot.com.. why I named the blog as teratak (hut)? I thinks that because that I want everyone shelter which is not so wealth and rich but full with humble.. so If u are interested to visit my blog, then u are welcomed to my blog!

Begin your step with patience and full effort

Everything in this world have their beginning and also an end as well as the reason for it to occurs. However, its sometime hard for us to make our kick start to do something new.It would also come with pressure but at the end of it theres a reward waiting for us to enjoy the satisfaction that we will gain after put all of our effort to achieve and reach the end of the journey. As example, we can see the people who participate in the marathon or iron man competition. They have to pass all the obstacle that they required to overcome in order to reach the finishing line. This is the same with our life. We can assume that our life is a journey which full of obstacle that we have to overcome in order to achieve the achievement that we desired. some people seems can't afford or can't bear the pressure that was being putted on their shoulder. I'm not talking about this matter as a motivator or what, but as the person who was also feels the same pressure. I'm still a normal human being. Have my own sensitivity have my own feeling. Now, back to the topic, the people sometimes can't accept the fact that they had been blessed by the problem or obstacle in their life by Him. He want to show we that He still care about us. He didn't left us alone. Some people often said that " I was alone in this world. Nobody want to help me to solve my problem." This is the wrong perception about the term alone. Actually, there's nobody born to be alone. As we, human are socialize animal we live in a society which need among each other. You was never alone as you always have Him as your companion. I admit that sometimes the pressure was so hard until we can't stand the pressure especially when it relate with our relationship or feeling matter. That would make us become so upset. But always remember that there's always a solution for the problem. The matter of the solution is what are the solution that we have? Not only the matter of how, it also relate on when as time playing their own role in solve the problem. So its the matter of time. Either the solution will come to us in a short time or it required a longer time. But both of this time period have their own advantages. Lets see.. If the problem solves in the shirt time, then there will be less pressure that we might feels and we can focus on other things that is also important in our life. In the other hands, if the solution come very slowly, we would have time to thinks on why this things happen to you? Why not this problem happen to your other friend? Hence, in here there's a brainstorming and it may make our critical thinking to develop well. I'm not saying that if we have a problem, we should delay it and take it easy about it. Theres a problem that we can solve right on the time as the problem happen. However, theres a problem that required us to thinks deeply as every decision that we take in our life would effect our life in the future.

For a person to make a kick start it maybe hard, as he still in the trial mode where he didn't aspect on what result that he may get at the end. In life, its the matter of probability where anything can happen. So, its sometime worth to try for something new. In student context, the problem to adopt the new surrounding and environment always happen for the new student who still in their time to suit their new life as university student. My advice to them, just be patient as this critical time. Always remember that we was never be alone...

Transformation along with time

Each step we take in our life would cause a transformation in our life. Either its the good one or the bad one. Recently, I was shocked with my old friend transformation. There's a lot of things happen to them for almost 2 years now. The big question mark in this matter is How big the impact of transformation would take place in your life. Lets take an example of a caterpillar. A caterpillar which may look disgust especially for the girls. They would see a caterpillar as an insect that was make them feels disgust and don't want to come near. If the caterpillar can talk, it may said that, he's still on his way to transform itself into a creature that may make girl love them. And its true that after a long process, the caterpillar would become a butterfly which was looks so beautiful and can make the girls feels happy once the time they see them. However, how many people know and realize that its was originally from the caterpillar which they hate most? Now, lets take this example to our daily life. Nowdays, the people seems easily forget about who they are and from where they come from? This is one of the example for bad transformation. We must accept that not everything in this world would bring a good benefit only. Anything in this world would also bring along their bad effect. But people may only consider it as good as the benefit is more than the bad effect.

Look back at the transformation that occurs in the people around us and think on how can they changes to the way they be right now. But its look like a trend now for a people would become jealous when other people achieve a better achievement from them. They would try to make sure the people who get the better achievement down and they would stay in the top of them. I think they should thinks on how they can achieve the same stage with the people through the effort that they would try to make. For example, a student saw his friend become a top scorer in the examination and has stable pointer. So what should this student do? Poisoning the student who was clever than him? Become a backstabber to the person? Off course all these things would succeed and the clever student would go down, but the bad impact for what he had done would become greater than the benefit that he may gain. Think about this, the clever student may feels betray and hold grudge against the student who betray him and this will going on and on. Can you see the chain of grudge between this two people which may take many year before settle down? Its nothing but only bad effect. Both student would lose in the battle. When the question came to me, I would give this answer. Try to get a win-win situation where both student would get benefit from it. The clever student can help the other student to study and the other student would help him in the matter that the clever student don't know about. Not everyone in this world knows everything. There must be something that they didn't know. This situation would help both the student and no grudge would happen.

Sacrifice: Consequences and Effect

As the day passed, without we know and realize, we already wrote the new chapter in our life. The story that maybe the greatest one or the horrible one. Not possible it is would become the happy one or might be the sad one. As the new chapter going on all over and over again, there must be a sacrifice that we need to do. Its between one of this two element that is physical or mentally sacrifice. However, its also possible to have both of this element to become combined as one.

In our life, we will always face with the choices that we have to made. When we talking about sacrifice that always surround us as an important element in order to make us thinks more critically about something that happen. The big question mark is in the question of how should we know that its worth for us to doing sacrifice? This situation would require us to do so many calculation and also assumption in order to make sure that we are sacrificing for the right thing with the right intention. Some of us may thinks that people who sacrificing their precious things in life as a stupid. I thinks when its time has come for us to sacrificing, please do the sacrifice. However, as I always mention before in my previous article, everything in this world must have a barrier or a limit to make sure that it would not cross the line that had been set up. For example, a farmer want to build a farm to put his cow, goat and cattle all together in one place. The farmer must build a barrier or border for all of these animal that is, the cow, goat and the cattle. Can u imagine if there was not border to separate these animal? Off course the cow may step on the cattle which was smaller than it. So in here, we need to have a barrier or wall to limit our sacrifice.

How can we put all this thing together in our daily life as a student. This is the public opinion so, if I doing some mistake in my statement, please tell me so that I can correct it out. Back to the topic, as a student I admit that we have to do lots of sacrifice in order to get the great result or achievement that we wish we can achieve. However, not all the things in this world we can get easily some of them need some effort to achieve it. The effort that we had done is our sacrifice. When the other still sleep or walking around with their friends we sacrifice our time for a while to read a book to get more knowledge. All of those thing can wait but achievement or success would not always waiting for you! You are the one who should chase it our and grab it with both of your hands and make sure that it will always be with you! So here, we can see the need for us, to sacrifice and believe it or not, until now we had already doing sacrifice in our life. Try to count what are things that you had to do which you have to put aside another thing? Not only that, try to think if the result from it is worth the sacrifice that we had made? Take a short time to think and conclude yourself.